to Win Over Your Sister In Law
She’s your husband’s
younger sister. She is all excited that her elder brother finally
got nailed. She can’t wait to see you, talk to you, share valuable
pieces of information with you about her brother (“Bhaiyya
really likes to see women in pink clothing!”). It makes you
exclaim," How sweet!” On the other hand, she could be the elder
sister, who led from the front when it came to making sure all the
arrangements for the marriage went smooth. She stopped over at near
your room during the wedding to help you wear your sari.
Whether she is
the bubbly baby sister or the responsible, married elder one,
winning over a new sister-in-law can prove to be very helpful
for a new bride. Sisters-in-law are often the first ones to
befriend the new bride and make her feel comfortable in the
family. She could prove to be extremely useful for you, as a new
bride, to get to know what makes your husband tick. You may win
over a friend for life. read on to know the tips to win over
your husband’s sister.
Tips To Win Over
Your Husband’s Sister
Individuality: Instead of treating
her as just another addition to the list of the ‘other family’,
treat her as an individual. If she got married before you came into
the family, it may mean all the more to her, if you take her for
what she is. She may have a lot to share with you, in terms of what
to expect out of marriage, out of her brother, what the various
members of the family like in terms of food, clothing and about the
temperaments of the individuals.
Since you are the new
member of the family, the other members of your husband’s family may
want to help in getting familiar with, especially your
mother-in-law. She may want to make you feel at home most because
she knows exactly how it feels to come into a new house. This may
make your sister-in-law a little sidelined or neglected because she
may share a very special relationship with her mother, much like the
one you share with your mother.
Give her special
treatment every once in a while. Take her shopping or buy her a
small gift; she will definitely appreciate. Take her sides when your mother-in-law scolds her
for something, or cheer her up by sharing with her a huge bar of
chocolate. If she is the elder sister of your husband, give her the
position, only less than that you may give your mother-in-law.
Encourage her to share her experiences about the married life, new
responsibilities. For all you know, her experiences might teach you
a thing or two about how to lead your life as a married woman.
In case you need to
say something to your sister-in-law, do so yourself; do not expect
your husband to be the mediator between both of you. You may want to
thank her for how she helped you arrange your house, or invite her
over for lunch; in any such case, it is easy to depend on your
husband to carry the message forward. Such a step could actually
create a misunderstanding wherein she might assume that you are not
interested in talking to her.