to Survive a Divorce
Forget about the past
and focus on the present and the future.’ This should be the ideal
mantra for every person who has undergone a divorce. Remember,
divorce does not mean the end of life. Instead, it gives you the
opportunity to re-design your future in the best way possible,
making sure not to repeat the earlier mistakes. And, to do this, all
you need is a strong determination and willpower. Divorce is
something that happened yesterday. It is past and cannot be changed,
but future can be altered.
What needs to be
changed is your attitude, your emotional turmoil and your
understanding of the situation. In the following lines, we have
provided some tips on how to survive a divorce.
Surviving A Divorce
It is the most important
thing that you should do after a divorce. Post divorce, you are
likely to be very low on self esteem. However, get one fact right in
your mind - nobody is perfect. Everyone is entitled to make
mistakes, but the person who learns from his/her past mistakes is
likely to become a better person with each passing day. Bring out
all those long dead and buried aspirations back into your mind and
start working on them.
Demands from Your Ex-spouse:
Demanding a feeling of
remorse or regret from your ex spouse may come naturally to your
mind, but you have to learn to get over it. Instead, strategize your
mind, in such a way that you expect nothing from your ex-partner.
Remember, if you couldn’t change him/her when both of you were
together, you certainly cannot do it even. Do not wait for any kind
of apology or justification from him/her. Get one thing straight in
your mind - the less you expect, the better you will feel.
conscious decisions about what you want to do with you life, as in
the coming years. You have all the time in the world to think about
your dreams and aspirations and turn them into reality. However, do
not indulge in thinking alone. Instead, work towards bringing your
dreams closer to reality. Your only goal must be to make your life
better than what it was earlier.
Look! If you want to feel
good, you need to work on your look. Get a new hairstyle and change
your wardrobe completely!! This may be surprising to you, but it is
a fact that when you look good, you feel good as well. A change in
your style statement is likely to make you feel better. Apart from
giving you a face-lift, it will also boost your confidence level and
People: It is
often seen that divorcees lock themselves up, in a world led by
isolation and seclusion. Think logically. Contrary to what you feel,
you have to force yourself out of the feelings of remorse and guilt
and continue with your life. Try to interact with people. Make new
friends or get in touch with the old ones. Hang out and have fun.
This will help you take your mind off the recent loss
Get Back To
When did you last
play golf or read a book or even sing a song? Very often, while
trying hard to make a relationship work, we often lose on the things
which we once loved indulging in. So, get back to your hobbies. Do
what you loved doing before the marriage. Enroll yourself in a hobby
class and make the most of it.